I also updated my checklist of funeral arrangements. I quoted from an essay
that
Guy Davenport wrote about
Ralph Eugene Meatyard, who died in 1972—not as a strict recipe for
how I want to be remembered, but the feast in
the forest really captures the spirit of the ceremony that I would like.
His death, heroic and tragic, proved to be the occasion for recognizing the
two Gene Meatyards. For two funerals were required.
The first was Protestant and, despite the distinguished people who came from
all over the United States, thoroughly dull. I felt,
as Cocteau had at another such obsequy, that Gene had not cared to attend:
It was so formulaic and uninspired that I had to go and
stand with my hands flat against the coffin to assure myself that I was at a
funeral at all.
But there was another funeral, a true Meatyard funeral, one at which the
rites were made up out of the family fund of
inventiveness. A small group of us, Madelyn, the children (Mike with his
wife and child, Christopher, and Melissa), Joy Little, Bob
May, Jonathan Greene, Bonnie Jean and I, went into the Red River Gorge which
Gene had explored and and photographed and tried to
save from the ravagements of politics and greed. It was a fine spring
Sunday. We climbed to an eminence that Gene had liked, a
place as remote and quiet as any forest that has not yet heard the buzz saw
and the bulldozer. Here we drank a wine that Gene had
brewed. I read aloud a poem that Christopher had written, Mike emptied the
canister that held all that could die and be burnt of
Gene over the ledge of a high rock--a few dry bones which sifted into the
tall treetops below. Melissa cast after them a bagful of
flower petals.
The we walked to another part of the forest and ate a feast, picnic fare of
the outrageously copious and toothsome and rich kind
which Gene had fancied for a proper outing. Had Homer been a Sybarite, he
would have described such a meal: chilled wines and cold
chicken, crisp vinegary salads and homemade bread. I cannot describe it for
I don't think I got to see it all, the choices were so
great. I remembed that when we could eat no more there were still plums
swimming in port passed around in small round glasses.
And this funeral Gene attended.